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The House that People Built – Seeing a need

In March 1969 Rex Smith, one of the original founders of Hearts & Homes for Youth, prepared a report called “The House That People Built: Anatomy of a Group Home in Suburbia.” The subject of the report was the Boys’ Home of Montgomery County, which is now known as Hearts & Homes for Youth. Here are some excerpts from the report.

"We appreciate very much the interest and enthusiasm of the local community without whose support as individuals, groups, and corporate citizens, there would be no home and no report." -Rex Smith

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The history of progress in the human service area often revolves around a tragic accident…

There was in our history, a single case in point that brought attention to the seriousness of this problem, which had not yet been brought to public attention through tragedy. This case occurred in the adult court regarding a youth of nineteen years. Mr. Melvin M. Feldman, later to become the President of the Board of Directors of the Boys’ Home, was appointed to the case of the youth, who was without family or other resources.

The judge, based on Mr. Feldman’s investigation, did not want to commit the boy to a reformatory, but found himself in a quandary. Mr. Feldman, a man of action, got in touch with several people who eventually led him to Reverend David Watterworth, then Pastor of the Georgia Avenue Christian Church in Silver Spring, MD. Arrangements were made for Reverend Watterworth to take the young lad into his own home where he remained for the next several months until he went out on his own. There were no incidents of offensive behavior recorded during his period of stay with the Watterworth family.

Neither Mr. Feldman nor Reverend Watterworth were satisfied with the facilities available for youngsters in difficulty. They both involved the Honorable Alfred D. Noyes, Judge of the Juvenile Court for Montgomery County, in an effort to develop a plan for the establishment and operation of youth homes throughout the county. These homes would be capable of dealing with youngsters who were in trouble and/or from troubled homes, who would benefit from a residential experience with other youngsters. Here they would have the opportunity for education, vocational training, and work experience.

Mr. Feldman called together a group of thirteen people on the evening of February 24, 1964 to further discuss the dilemma facing the courts. The group discussed the “half-way house” concept and set out fact-finding committees to determine how financial assistance could be developed, as well as the intent and scope of the program, which would be established in the home. Several committees were set for various purposes with major emphasis centered around the development of community interest in the youngsters and the program.

The group decided to incorporate itself as the Boys’ Home of Montgomery County on April 17, 1964. During the next few months, one of the committees developed a liaison with and a commitment from the various social service agencies in the community toward helping the Boys’ Home. These included the Probation Department of the Juvenile Court, the Department of Public Welfare, the Division of Child Mental Health, the Board of Education Pupil Services Division, the Department of Vocational Rehabilitation for the State of Maryland, the Family Services Agency of Montgomery County, the Probation Department of the Circuit Court, the Department of Employment Security, and the Bureau of Rehabilitation of the National Capital Area. There was little doubt that the social serving agencies who dealt with adolescent youth everyday considered this a major project.

An investigation and study of probation cases in the Juvenile Court in 1964 found that at least one hundred young men between the ages of 16 and 19 who appeared before the Juvenile Court in Montgomery County would have been referred for placement in a structured homelike setting. It was clear that many adolescent youth in the community needed residential treatment and placement outside of their own homes but not in a mental hospital or in training school settings. The Maryland State Department of Public Welfare had held a conference as far back as 1961 on halfway houses. The need to provide this type of residential treatment in the State of Maryland was cited time and time again with as yet no results. Judge Alfred Noyes stated:

“I have no doubt that it could help save many boys from a life of crime… The court in most instances is confronted with a choice offering either probation services or commitment to one of the State training schools. There should be alternative facilities such as small group homes where children could live in a homelike atmosphere under the supervision of competent personnel and receive probation services from the staff of Court.”

On February 12, 1968 we opened the doors of the Boys’ Home… We had arranged for contractual spaces, that is, four bedrooms on the upper floor of a large old home in Rockville, which was used as a boarding house for adults. A part-time counselor was hired and with the help of the owner of the home who acted as a cook and housekeeper, and the probation staff, we were able to develop a shoestring approach to the guidance and development of the youngsters who were referred to us by the Juvenile Court.

In May of 1968 we learned of the foresight and conscientious concern of the Montgomery County Council for the Boys’ Home… the County Council appropriated $30,000 in its 1968-69 budget to match the money raised by the Boys’ Home. This $30,000 would help pay for at least one half of the cost of care, per boy, per month. This single action by the Montgomery City Council was probably the most significant in our development. We were a reality, but this acceptance of our integrity by the governing body of the County seemed to push us over the hump.

At this writing, our history is in fact history. We are by no means on easy street and, as mentioned before, our existence from year to year will be as much based on the grass roots $5 membership from individual citizenry as on larger contributions from major corporations and foundations. We started on nickels and dimes raised at the Montgomery County Fair through the sale of balloons and other small but very significant contributions. Certainly we plan to better our organization and expand as part of our future. Our history as it can be read. however, makes us both humble and grateful.

A Donation from a Generous, Anonymous Patron

I went in the restaurant to request support for our organization, Hearts & Homes for Youth. I was ready to deliver my elevator speech. I asked the manager if his restaurant supported events and nonprofits. As I was about to begin my pitch, I was interrupted and left speechless.

Hearts & Homes for Youth moved our annual fundraiser golf tournament (Girls on the Green) to Howard County, Maryland this year as part of an effort to expand our network. Recently I have been visiting local businesses, boutiques, and offices to introduce our organization and our event, to generate support and enthusiasm. It is a charity golf tournament just for women and we are an organization that helps troubled, victimized youth by providing residential and supportive services in a stable, disciplined, nurturing homelike environment, to help the youth get back on their feet and become independent, productive adults. It is a mouthful but our work is straightforward so it is an easy speech to deliver.

On this evening, I was picking up food I had ordered from a restaurant that I frequently dine at in Howard County. I was about to tell the manager about Hearts & Homes for Youth, Girls on the Green, and the benefits of giving us his support when he stopped me – before I had even told him my name – and said, “you trust me, I trust you. We will support your event.”

He volunteered to support our event and organization with blind faith in my request. He did not ask me to tell him about the youth we serve nor what we do with the funds we raise – all he heard was me asking for his support. He asked for it to be a quiet donation, explaining that he and his wife support different causes regularly and they prefer discretion.

The selflessness of this man and his wife who willingly support their community at large, anonymously, is humbling, inspiring, and a reminder of how good people are and can be.

Things to win and buy at Girls on the Green!

At Girls on the Green 2015 there will be a number of items for you to win or buy! These items have been donated to us by our supporters! Check out some of the goodies up for grabs!

Four 4-ship tickets to Historic Ships in Baltimore!7392307_orig

C3DBCC6ADC22EBEE129FF032CC6B21CEA Clay Date for 4 at Color Me Mine! Includes studio fees & 1 piece of pottery per painter

Int_Hero_Mountain_ZachPowder_080613Liberty Mountain Resort has supported us with 2 Learn to Ski and Snowboard Packages for a lucky winner!

790964_3Smyth Jewelers is supporting us with a sterling silver Pandora bracelet with an Open Your Heart charm!

logoJason’s Deli has donated a gift card for a lucky raffle winner to enjoy a healthy lunch of exciting flavors, true freshness, and nutrient filled goodness!

imgresThe Little Things for Cancer is donating a Margarita Basket for you to enjoy while you kick back and relax with your amigos! A perfect, refreshing gift, this bucket is full of spicy, delicious treats and tastes from south of the border, for you to enjoy a fiesta that can’t be beat!

roundtopRoundtop Mountain Resort has donated 2 Adventure Packages for Mountain Adventures ages 5+ for an exhilarating day of zip lines (up to 400 feet in length), rope bridges, Tarzan swings, cargo nets, scenic walks, OGO Balls, bumper boats, and the Cedar Maze!

230017454.336.255Beer lovers, Lagunitas Brewery is providing a Sip & Spill Package, which includes 1 case of our signature IPA, 2 Custom Mason Jars to drink it out of, 2 T-Shirts to spill it on, PLUS coasters, posters, magnets, and a bottle opener!

And we have more goodies…

  • Two tickets for a complimentary class at Pinot’s Palette
  • A private tasting and tour for 20 people at DeJon Vineyards and use of the winery for 2 hours
  • A $50 gift certificate to Meadow Farms
  • A basket of goodies from Chesapeake Bay Roasting Company
  • A Woodstock basket
  • Art by Fredericka Weiner Photography in Olney
  • A pearl jewelry ensemble
  • A bundle of goodies for you to enjoy a night in Italy in your own home!
  • A basket of scrumptious snacks and truffles!

And many more!

 

Getting a jumpstart at our semi-independent living program

jump-start-semi-independent-living-programJumpstart Semi-Independent Living Program for Boys is a program designed to help youth jumpstart their lives. Located in bustling and artistic Hyattsville, Maryland, this historic home provides a structured, rigorous, and goal-oriented program for young men ready to embark as independent, mature community members. The program is structured around giving young men the freedom to make positive and sound choices, develop a sense of responsibility, and take control of their lives. With professional staff providing 24-hour supervision and behavioral role modeling, this program provides the consistency and continuity that allows our young men to develop skills necessary to become productive, responsible, and engaged community members.

Jumpstart group home offers support for up to eight adolescent males between the ages of 17 and 20 years old from all parts of Maryland. Individuals typically reside in the home for nine to twelve months, and up to two years. Jumpstart provides the following benefits:

  • Individual, family, and group therapy targeted to building a strong personal identity, pride, self-esteem and confidence
  • Employability development and placement with potential career development
  • Educational advocacy and support
  • Case management, referral and coordination for health services, substance abuse treatment, family therapy, and additional necessary services
  • Recreation and constructive use of leisure time
  • Life skills training to support self-sufficiency

From the moment a new resident arrives, staff at Jumpstart work to get them into school or a job and help the residents find their voices. Jumpstart staff explain that the young men need to learn that they have a choice every day to invest in themselves, and that staff at Jumpstart are listening.

While the youth are discovering their voices and developing their sense of responsibility, the Program staff have observed that the young men also need inspiration to get out of the house. “The time spent in detention teaches the boys to stay inside, we want to get them out and reconnected with the community.”

Group activities, like basketball games, are a great way for the youth to get to know each other and develop a sense of community. When the group plays basketball together, they are having fun, seeing the program staff like family members, and respecting each other.

Another group activity that the young men love is cooking. Most of the residents who come to the home say that they do not know how to cook. The boys tend to trail behind Mike when he goes into the kitchen. When he starts cooking, the boys start asking questions. He casually explains what he’s doing and asks for their help getting some spices or rinsing the meat, walking them through his recipe. Often he makes it a comical experience, pretending they are putting on a cooking show, so the youth enjoy it and get engaged.

Usually the young men at Jumpstart are employed or in school, or both, within a month of entering the program. Throughout their time at Jumpstart, staff give the young men positive reinforcement and recognize their talents, to help the youth realize what they bring to the table and the possibilities that are available to them.

“All the kids want is for you to spend some time with them. When they act out they just want someone to listen and engage with them. Sometimes the boys run away from the family environment staff creates at Jumpstart because they are not used to it. They self-sabotage because they are afraid of recognizing that someone cares.”

Nevertheless, the Jumpstart program staff are dedicated every day to helping the young men realize they have a voice, they are respected, they are heard, and they are supported. The goal of the program is for each young man to achieve success, change, and confidence and leave the program as independent, productive young adults.

Thank you Women’s Club of Chevy Chase

IMG_1596The Women’s Club of Chevy Chase (WCCC) has supported Hearts & Homes for many years with monetary and in-kind donations as well as volunteering on special occasions. Toward the end of 2014, WCCC Service Chair Marilyn Sherman noticed that Hearts & Homes needed suitcases and so in 2015, the WCCC started a donation drive to collect gently used small to medium-sized suitcases, travel, and duffle bags for the youth to transport their belongings. Hearts & Homes recently met with the WCCC to gather the donated travel bags and thank the group for their ongoing support.

WCCC member Thelma Mrazek has been a member of the WCCC since 1992 and was previously on Hearts & Homes’ Board of Directors, before we became Hearts & Homes. She recalls, in the late 1990s, someone mentioned the Boys & Girls Homes (our former name) was looking for people to serve on the Board of Directors. She volunteered, joining our Board and serving as the Chairman of the Board from 2000 to 2001. She explained that the organization was renamed Hearts & Homes for Youth during that time because “people were confusing us with the Boys & Girls Clubs, which had a strong promotional campaign underway.”

We are all glad that our organization was renamed because it is a perfect fit for what we do!

Thelma recalled her most memorable moment with Hearts & Homes was an event where young men gave testimony to the difference made to their lives when they were placed in our care at our group homes. “They spoke of how it encouraged them to seek education or training and shaped them to be responsible citizens, holding good jobs and having families of their own.”

Hearts & Homes is grateful for these long standing relations with supporters like Thelma Mrazek and the WCCC, who have a rich understanding of the children in our care and our mission.

Brandeis National Committee donates household items

imgresSuzanne Giacalone came to Hearts & Homes today on behalf of Brandeis National Committee with a large donation of household items. The donation is greatly appreciated as we are always in need of household items for the youth who come through our doors.

Brandeis National Committee is dedicated to providing philanthropic support to Brandeis University, a distinguished liberal arts and research university founded by the American Jewish community. Its membership is connected to the university through fundraising and through activities that reflect the values on which the university was founded: academic excellence, social justice, nonsectarianism and service to the community.

History of Brandeis National Committee

Founded in 1948, Brandeis is the first Jewish sponsored, nonsectarian university in the United States. Brandeis reached the pinnacle of American higher education by earning Phi Beta Kappa recognition for 13 years, the youngest university to be honored in this manner since the 18th century.

The life of the mind is central to this institution. As a small, vigorous research university, Brandeis combines the education and teaching normally found at small selective colleges with superb facilities and renowned faculty usually found on the at the largest research universities.

As one of the youngest and smallest of the research universities, it has a remarkable record of accomplishment. The Rosenstiel Basic Medical Sciences Research Center’s interdisciplinary approach to combating diseases has greatly expanded the scope of leukemia research, pinpointed an on/off switch in diphtheria and rendered more effective mammography machines. Research in the Volen Center’s Memory and Cognition Lab focuses on how memory and mental processes change across the adult lifespan. The Hadassah-Brandeis Institute develops fresh ways of thinking about Jews and gender worldwide by producing and promoting scholarly research, artistic projects and public engagement.

Our Greater Washington Chapter is one of 1 00 chapters across the continental United States and Hawaii. Through fundraising ventures, we share the common goal of encouraging the growth of Brandeis and its libraries in addition to the Science for Life Center. Our strong leadership and membership, with close to 800 members, enable us to be a highly successful chapter of the Brandeis National Committee. This year, our chapter specifically is prioritizing fundraising for research on neurodegenerative diseases.

Harriet Tubman Day – an activist and a humanitarian

1000509261001_2105718965001_Harriet-Tubman-Statue-in-HarlemToday is the 98th anniversary of Harriet Tubman’s death in 1913. The date was designated as national Harriet Tubman Day in 1990.

As for many, Harriet Tubman is an inspiration for everyone at Hearts & Homes. In her memory, we opened the Harriet Tubman Emergency Shelter in a targeted attempt to reduce the number of African-American young men being incarcerated in a lock-up, lock-down, detention center (juvenile jail) when they pose no serious threat to the community while awaiting a court hearing.

The youth that are placed at the Harriet Tubman shelter are referred to us by the Department of Juvenile Services. Hundreds of young men from across the state, amounting to thousands of days, have stayed at our shelter where they have received residential and supportive services.

Consistently, after being placed in our care, most of the young men went home or to a community based program or facility like the group homes we operate. It is clear everyday that believing in these young men, giving them the tools create opportunities for themselves, and supporting them in a home-like environment rather than locking them up, helps them get themselves back on the right track.

We call the shelter our “Over Ground Railroad to Freedom,” even Justice.

Ours is a living tribute to Harriet Tubman’s legacy as we celebrate now and for years to come, her courage and self-sacrifice, which led thousands to freedom. Ours is to lead thousands of youth to the freedom perhaps otherwise denied to them; to learn, to grow, to mature, and to become responsible adult citizens of the community. Ours is to provide a safe, secure, and disciplined shelter home; an opportunity to realize their potential and dreams. Ours is to purposefully interrupt the first stop on the train to criminalization – incarceration prior to juvenile court hearings of those who are not a threat to the community. Ours is to put them on a train to a bright, productive future. Yours is to help us keep that train on the right track. Bless you, Rex Smith

The importance of communication

_photo06_f0_2a_dab57f378615__1326928849000Effective communication is an essential skill to develop in order to have a healthy family relationship.  Communication is just that – a skill that can be developed.  So, if your relationship with your family is not at the level that you would like for it to be, do not get frustrated or give up!

You can exercise and develop the muscle of effective communication just as you would exercise and develop any other muscle.  In order to be physically healthy, you would need to exercise your entire physical body.  In the same way, in order to be relationally healthy, effective communication will also require you to exercise your entire body.

YOUR EARS.  Good communication is dependent upon your ability to listen.  Hearing is different than listening.  Being able to hear does not mean that you have developed the ability to listen.  You may be able to hear what a person is saying without really listening and allowing what that person is saying to have an impact on your understanding of that person’s experience.  For this reason, it is often that parents may exclaim in frustration to their children, “You are not listening!”  The problem is not that the children cannot hear their parents; the problem is that the children are not listening.  Hearing is passive.  Listening is active, and therefore requires action.  As you listen to the people in your life, remember to ask yourself, “What action should I take based on what I hear this person say?”

YOUR TONGUE.  It has been said that the “power of life and death is in the tongue.”  While the tongue may be one of the smallest parts of the body, this tiny muscle truly does have the power to change a person’s life – for better or for worse.  Before using your tongue, always remember to THINK:

Is it…

  • True
  • Helpful
  • Inspiring
  • Necessary
  • Kind

YOUR EYES.  What can be said about the eyes? In the ugliest of times, the eyes are always a source of beauty. They are said to be the window into a person’s soul. They produce the power of sight. However, with this power comes great responsibility. The simple courtesy of looking someone in the eye when addressing them or while listening to them is a gesture that should not be taken lightly.

YOUR HEART.  Honesty is important not only for yourself, but for effective communication with a loved one.  Speak from the heart.  Listen from the heart.  Love from the heart.  Any communication offered or received in honesty and in love will make a difference in your relationship.

As with any exercise routine, it is important to remember that consistency is key.  The greatest gift you can give to the people in your life is to consistently communicate your love and gratitude to each of them.  What is one way that you can say, “I love you,” with your ears, with your tongue, with your eyes and with your heart today?

The lean, not so mean, three bean chili

FullSizeRenderHere is a recipe for some mild chili for you and your family to enjoy making together! It’s a recipe for quality family time with a tasty reward at the end!

Ingredients

Half an onion, chopped
2 tablespoons of olive oil
1 pound of ground turkey
1 teaspoon of minced garlic
1 teaspoon of chili powder
1 teaspoon of crushed red pepper
2 teaspoons of oregano
1 cup of tomatoes, diced
1 can of roasted diced tomatoes
2 cans of navy beans
1 can of black beans
1 can of kidney beans

Directions

  1. In a stockpot over medium heat, saute the onion in oil until tender, about 4 minutes. Add the next five ingredients; stir around and cook until the meat is no longer pink. 
  2. Add the tomatoes; cover and cook on medium/low heat for 5 minutes. Stir in the beans and salt/pepper if desired; simmer for 30-45 minutes or until heated through. Yield: ~16 servings

Turkey minestrone – a soup to warm you up in chilly weather

Here is a recipe shared by Caitlin from Hearts & Homes for a Turkey Minestrone soup to enjoy with family and friends!

IMG_1105Ingredients

Half an onion, chopped
2 tablespoons of olive oil
1 pound of ground turkey
1 teaspoon of parsley
2 teaspoons of minced garlic
1 teaspoon of oregano
1 teaspoon of basil
1 teaspoon of sage
1 teaspoon of thyme
1 cup of tomatoes, diced
6 cups of chicken or vegetable broth
1 medium zucchini, sliced (and halved if necessary to make it bite-size)
2 stalks of celery, sliced
2 carrots, sliced
1 can of navy beans

Directions

  1. In a stockpot over medium heat, saute the onion in oil until tender, about 4 minutes. Add the next seven ingredients; stir around and cook until the meat is no longer pink. 
  2. Add the tomatoes, broth, zucchini, celery, and carrots; cover and cook on medium/low heat for 5 minutes. Stir in the beans and salt/pepper if desired; simmer for 30-45 minutes or until heated through. Yield: ~16 servings